What is Retail Therapy? I will give you my definition of it. Retail Therapy to me is when your man has pissed you off or your just basically tired of giving all your money to the bill folks and you just say to hell with it and go shopping. The primary purpose of this is to improve your mood or disposition and it is often seen in people during periods of depression or transition. That’s me everyday.

For some, this is a “short-lived habit” but not easy to break. We indulge in what we call…”Comfort Buys”. So what if you didn’t need that outfit or that pair of shoes that was on sale that you have nothing in your closet to go with. So what! It made you feel better to just say to hell with it all and go shopping.

For myself, I can just go to the Dollar Tree and buy a bunch of junk that I don’t really need and I feel some type of sick relief that I have just bought something.

Do you indulge in retail therapy? If so, how often and what are some of the things that you buy?

We all have “side-effects” of flaws although we chose not to admit them but it will be interesting to fess up and admit what your side effects are. I will start it:

Mine are:
1. I am very stubborn, if you don’t see it my way…you just don’t see it
2. I have a very slick mouth
3. I don’t really trust people. I think everyone has a motive (and thats simply because i have just been around alot of people that did have one)
4. I don’t have much patience
5. I give up easy
6. I don’t try hard enough sometimes
7. I have a bad case of “Potty Mouth” at times…(but im still a lady!)
8. I like time to myself and I cannot STAND to be smothered. Im often withdrawn
9. I like neatness and order (except for closets! lol)
10. I am brutally honest
11. I have a low tolerance for ignorant men
12. I will snap at any given moment if provoked
13. The way i feel shows on my face
14. I am me!

So thats my side-effects. And I decided to take the honor of listing the side effects of my baby daddy #2. He should have came with a label on his head. But I shall take the liberty of putting this in here for him so all the women will know! And here it goes:

Often experience recurring thoughts of nothingness throughout the day. This causes long periods of carelessness, euphoria and an increased sex drive. These feelings could lead to infatuation, n which he will have you thinking its love. He appears harmless but with prolonged association, dating him could possibly lead to destruction!!!!!

Enuff Said!!
Holla Back!

Someone posted this on myspace, this is a trip:

eat me,beat me
bite me,blow me
suck me,f*ck me
very slowly
if you kiss me dont be hasty
use your tongue to make it nasty

roses are red
Lemons are sour
Open ur legs and give me an hour

Kissing Is A Habit
F*cking Is A Game
Guys Get All The Pleasure
Girls Get All The Pain
10 Minutes Of Pleasure
9 Months Of Pain
3 Days In The Hospital
A Baby Without A Name
The Father Is A Bastard
The Mother Is A Whore
This Woulda Never Happend If The Rubber Hadn’t Tore!!

Sex is like math
You subtract the clothes
Add the bed
Divide the legs
And Pray to god
You dont multiply

Roses are red
Grass is green
Open your legs
And I’ll fill you with cream

Sex is good
Sex is fine
Doggy Style & 69
Just for fun
Or gettin paid
Everyone likes gettin laid

u opened it so u r cursed for 5 yrs. u need to read it ENTIRELY!!

roses are nice
violets are fine.
ill be the six
if you be the nine.

roses are red
violets are blue
condoms will rip
now watch you get screwed

Someone sent this to me today just to let me know that God is watching me and no matter what I am going through or what people put me through, It will make me a stronger, wiser,better person. Thanks girl….

MALACHI 3:3
Malachi 3:3 says: “He will sit as a refiner and purifier of
silver.”
This verse puzzled some women in a Bible study and they wondered
what this statement meant about the character and nature of God.
One of the women offered to find out the process of refining
silver and get back to the group at their next Bible Study.
That week, the woman called a silversmith and made an appointment
to watch him at work. She didn’t mention anything about the reason
for her interest beyond her curiosity about the process of refining
silver.
As she watched the silversmith, he held a piece of silver over
the fire and let it heat up. He explained that in refining silver, one
needed to hold the silver in the middle of the fire where the flames were
hottest as to burn away all the impurities.
The woman thought about God holding us in such a hot spot then
she thought again about the verse that says: “He sits as a refiner
and purifier of silver.”

She asked the silversmith if it was true that he had to sit there
in front of the fire the whole time the silver was being refined.
The man answered that yes, he not only had to sit there holding
the silver, but he had to keep his eyes on the silver the entire time
it was in the fire. If the silver was left a moment too long in the flames, it
would be destroyed.
The woman was silent for a moment. Then she asked the silversmith, “How do you know when the silver is fully refined?” He smiled at her and answered, “Oh, that’s easy, when I see my image in it.”
If today you are feeling the heat of the fire, remember that God has His eye on you and will keep watching you until He sees His image in
you.

Im back everyone as I said I would be and was pondering over what my next blog topic would be. Topics usually come to me by things that are on my mind, my friends mind or just day to day experiences. So..this next topic is actually an experience and it was a trip because of how it came about and I know some of you can relate to this.

Last night me and my friend was sitting here and decided to order in. I made the call and he wanted the pizza that had pineapples on it. (ewww) When I was speaking to the man, he started laughing so after I hung up, I asked what for. He said that my southern “drawl” was too cute. I asked what did he mean. Now backing it up a bit, he is originally from New Jersey, lived in the Boggie Down, Charleston and then here. So he has been exposed to a variety of dialects. But he spent most of his years growing up in New Jersey and New York….so you will see where im going with this.

We got into a discussion about dialects and how they differ. He said I pronounced “pineapple” as “pie-napples“. I didnt really realize that but after saying it to myself again..I did. So I walked over to the washing machine and picked up a bottle of liquid Tide and asked him what it was. I did this because I have family up north and they DO NOT refer to it is washing powders. He looked at it and immediately said it was “detergent“. I was waiting for “soap” because that it what my grandmother who lived in Detroit used to refer to it as. He asked what did i call it and I said washing powders. He mocked what i said and said, “washin-powderz”. I laughed so hard because when I thought about it, thats how I said it..country as hell!

I had him to repeat a few things that really stand out in the dialect department, you know..how you can tell if someone ain’t from here. Word like call, dog, talk, store, car, mall..the list went on. And we pronounced them different big time. This is how he said it sounded to him. Call and Mall sounded like cawl and mawl. Dog, it sounds like dawg and store, we say stowe. Basically, we add alot of aw’s to words that shouldnt have them.

And the title of this blog was something we were talking about. I knew this guy that was from somewhere up north and somehow we were talking about cars. I can’t remember exactly what the conversation was about but I said something about my car and it being a four door. He looked at me and he said, “Your car is a “photo”?????” and fell out laughing. I didn’t get it until he explained it to me. If you say photo kind of fast, it sounds like your actually saying four door.

Me and him both agreed that it is different and funny actually when you actually listen to it especially me..lol (im kuntree)!!! My friend also made another point. Have you known people that are from here and go to New York or somewhere for the summer or to visit and as he said..Comes back with a manufactured accent? I was rflmao. Not manufactured but anyway, that was interesting and funny.

Do you notice the big difference and what are some words that we as southerners say that actually sound like another word like photo and four door? And have you known someone who has returned to the dirty after visiting up north and is now back home and has a Manufactured accent?

Holla Back and until next time

Written by stilletosnsmiles on mochacity.com

I find it heartbreaking that women will do any and everything to change themselves for a relationship. They will settle for less and make light of it. I find this saddening. What bugs me even more is the fact that most of the little girls posing out here, trying to play like they are grown, learned everything they know about, dating love & relationships, from their Mamas.

Females/Woman need to understand that whatever you do in front, beside or around your children stays with them for life. If your young daughter sees you sleeping with her father, but the little girl knows her father goes home to his “real wife” after the fact. What are you really teaching your daughter? We as women need to pay closer attention to what we expose ourselves and our children too.

If you little girl sees various men coming in and out your house, she is going to grow up thinking thats ok and its not.

And when a little girls grows up with out her daddy in her life, she usually ends up trying to find that love and attention that she didn’t receive from him growing up in men. And this usually leads to abusive relationships etc. Men, its a shame. You should do better. Because one day you will want that time but it will be too late.

Because, what happens is that same little child grows up confused and bewildered about relationships and what role they are suppose to play in their life. These little girls grow up looking for love in all the wrong places. Feeling worthless and with no self esteem. Hiding behind the newest fashion and the latest Dick they conquered and sucked for the night.

The state of Woman on a whole is disgusting. But to see Black Women on this path of degradation and lose of self esteem is even more crippling. We need to educate OUR little girls from birth. Self Esteem needs to be taught at home as well as the classroom.