Comments for Sistas Speak Out http://sistasspeakout.wordpress.com If you don't mind...it dont matter Thu, 15 Oct 2009 13:58:23 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on Forgiveness: Strength or Weakness by emagyne http://sistasspeakout.wordpress.com/2008/01/02/forgiveness-strength-or-weakness/#comment-203 emagyne Thu, 15 Oct 2009 13:58:23 +0000 http://sistasspeakout.wordpress.com/2008/01/02/forgiveness-strength-or-weakness/#comment-203 I think it takes a strong willed person to forgive someone who has wronged you and there is alot to factor into that. People make mistakes but it depends on what that mistake is and how many times they have made it. And forgiving someone, let's say in a relationship, it doesn't mean that you have to stay with them. You can forgive them for their wrong doings and still go on with your life. It takes too much out of you to hold grudges and hold on to the past, trust me I know. Sometimes you just have to accept things for what they are and keep it pushing but you dont have to keep this person around in your life. You can forgive them and either let it go or be friends. If they cant get with that then you can walk away knowing that you tried to do the right thing and maybe they need to check themselves. And if you keep it lingering in the back of your mind to the point that it is really bothering you, then you have not truly forgiven. Depending on the situation, you may never forget. I have some of those but I have accepted it for what it is and moved on. And sometimes thats the best and the only thing that you can do. I have learned in life that you can only expect someone to be exactly who they are and that's it. You cant change anyone and if they want to change, it will have to come from them. But I do think you can truly forgive people. I truly forgave my father for things he didnt do when i was a child. I grew up and people do make mistakes. No, it wasnt fair how my mom had to handle it all by herself but he is trying to make up for it now. Better late than never. I still have things in the back of my mind about that but that was "yester-year", sometimes you just have to accept, let go and let god and move on. And when I did that, things turned around and we have a better relationship now. So yes, you can truly forgive someone. I think it takes a strong willed person to forgive someone who has wronged you and there is alot to factor into that. People make mistakes but it depends on what that mistake is and how many times they have made it. And forgiving someone, let’s say in a relationship, it doesn’t mean that you have to stay with them. You can forgive them for their wrong doings and still go on with your life. It takes too much out of you to hold grudges and hold on to the past, trust me I know. Sometimes you just have to accept things for what they are and keep it pushing but you dont have to keep this person around in your life. You can forgive them and either let it go or be friends. If they cant get with that then you can walk away knowing that you tried to do the right thing and maybe they need to check themselves. And if you keep it lingering in the back of your mind to the point that it is really bothering you, then you have not truly forgiven. Depending on the situation, you may never forget. I have some of those but I have accepted it for what it is and moved on. And sometimes thats the best and the only thing that you can do. I have learned in life that you can only expect someone to be exactly who they are and that’s it. You cant change anyone and if they want to change, it will have to come from them. But I do think you can truly forgive people. I truly forgave my father for things he didnt do when i was a child. I grew up and people do make mistakes. No, it wasnt fair how my mom had to handle it all by herself but he is trying to make up for it now. Better late than never. I still have things in the back of my mind about that but that was “yester-year”, sometimes you just have to accept, let go and let god and move on. And when I did that, things turned around and we have a better relationship now. So yes, you can truly forgive someone.

]]> Comment on Forgiveness: Strength or Weakness by harshit http://sistasspeakout.wordpress.com/2008/01/02/forgiveness-strength-or-weakness/#comment-186 harshit Tue, 30 Jun 2009 22:59:34 +0000 http://sistasspeakout.wordpress.com/2008/01/02/forgiveness-strength-or-weakness/#comment-186 you say all this about forgiveness....but is it really possible to truly forgive some one ???.... Is forgiveness not just another way of pretending that nothing ever happened??? Where do you draw the line and how do you differ b/w forgiveness and weakness Can someone truly be forgiven??...to forgive is to forget and to move on right???....but how is that possible...wont you always remember what happened in the back of your head even if pretend everything is jolly and happy.... you say all this about forgiveness….but is it really possible to truly forgive some one ???….

Is forgiveness not just another way of pretending that nothing ever happened???

Where do you draw the line and how do you differ b/w forgiveness and weakness

Can someone truly be forgiven??…to forgive is to forget and to move on right???….but how is that possible…wont you always remember what happened in the back of your head even if pretend everything is jolly and happy….

]]> Comment on What is the best way to get over a break-up? by Lotty http://sistasspeakout.wordpress.com/2008/02/11/what-is-the-best-way-to-get-over-a-break-up/#comment-80 Lotty Sun, 08 Jun 2008 14:28:32 +0000 http://sistasspeakout.wordpress.com/?p=52#comment-80 it may seem like its that easy but in all reality it's not...all of those steps take so much time because poride and ego get in the way...you think they'll come back or come to their senses or change the way they are...wake up...if you broke up it was for a reason (most likely a reason that was masked by something trivial)..evaluate that before you make your next more it may seem like its that easy but in all reality it’s not…all of those steps take so much time because poride and ego get in the way…you think they’ll come back or come to their senses or change the way they are…wake up…if you broke up it was for a reason (most likely a reason that was masked by something trivial)..evaluate that before you make your next more

]]> Comment on Forget Build a Bear…I need Build a Man! by Ms. T which stands for Ms. Total Thang http://sistasspeakout.wordpress.com/2008/01/03/forget-build-a-beari-need-build-a-man/#comment-24 Ms. T which stands for Ms. Total Thang Mon, 11 Feb 2008 16:39:51 +0000 http://sistasspeakout.wordpress.com/2008/01/03/forget-build-a-beari-need-build-a-man/#comment-24 Hey - i watched oprah recently- she was saying make a list of all that you want in a mate! So these women were saying that is what they did and low and behold they met their dream man! SO I did it too- I will have to keep you posted as to when I meet mine! Hey – i watched oprah recently- she was saying make a list of all that you want in a mate! So these women were saying that is what they did and low and behold they met their dream man! SO I did it too- I will have to keep you posted as to when I meet mine!

]]> Comment on Forget Build a Bear…I need Build a Man! by Preecey http://sistasspeakout.wordpress.com/2008/01/03/forget-build-a-beari-need-build-a-man/#comment-16 Preecey Mon, 07 Jan 2008 18:03:44 +0000 http://sistasspeakout.wordpress.com/2008/01/03/forget-build-a-beari-need-build-a-man/#comment-16 Hee hee hee hee! No comment on this one, but I can't wait to hear about all of the type of men that could be created. Hee hee hee hee! No comment on this one, but I can’t wait to hear about all of the type of men that could be created.

]]> Comment on Is your car a “photo” or “four door”: The difference in dialects by Preecey http://sistasspeakout.wordpress.com/2008/01/07/is-your-car-a-photo-or-four-door-the-difference-in-dialects/#comment-15 Preecey Mon, 07 Jan 2008 17:43:30 +0000 http://sistasspeakout.wordpress.com/2008/01/07/is-your-car-a-photo-or-four-door-the-difference-in-dialects/#comment-15 I read this one last night and was really trippin because I could here your cute little accent saying all of that! I have a cousin that is from up north, but she has been here since she was 10 and she is now 37. She is trying so hard to keep that northern dialect but does not realize that she now has a norsouthern dialect. LOL. A little country mixed with a little northern. Funny thing is that she still has not figured out where YONDER is. RFLMAO! Peace. I read this one last night and was really trippin because I could here your cute little accent saying all of that! I have a cousin that is from up north, but she has been here since she was 10 and she is now 37. She is trying so hard to keep that northern dialect but does not realize that she now has a norsouthern dialect. LOL. A little country mixed with a little northern. Funny thing is that she still has not figured out where YONDER is. RFLMAO! Peace.

]]> Comment on Malachi 3:3 says: “He will sit as a refiner and purifier of silver.” by Preecey http://sistasspeakout.wordpress.com/2008/01/07/malachi-33-says-he-will-sit-as-a-refiner-and-purifier-of-silver/#comment-14 Preecey Mon, 07 Jan 2008 17:30:38 +0000 http://sistasspeakout.wordpress.com/2008/01/07/malachi-33-says-he-will-sit-as-a-refiner-and-purifier-of-silver/#comment-14 I'm so glad that you posted this! We all need this constant reminder. We feel as if He is not always in control because sometimes our burdens are so heavy, but He always has total control. I’m so glad that you posted this! We all need this constant reminder. We feel as if He is not always in control because sometimes our burdens are so heavy, but He always has total control.

]]> Comment on Sex poem by Preecey http://sistasspeakout.wordpress.com/2008/01/07/sex-poem/#comment-13 Preecey Mon, 07 Jan 2008 17:16:03 +0000 http://sistasspeakout.wordpress.com/2008/01/07/sex-poem/#comment-13 Girl this is so true! I don't think there is a woman alive who can't relate. There are plenty of men out there who can feel the pain on the opposite side of the mountain. Sex is so gggooooodddd but is it always worth it? Women can you feel me? I mean you got pregnant and it all happened so fast! The sex I mean! You get 1,2,3, etc. minutes and it's done. And then you have 9 months of pain and the rest of your life as the role of a Mother. To all of my Mothers, Aunts, etc. you have my up most respect and also to the Fathers that are handling your business. Girl this is so true! I don’t think there is a woman alive who can’t relate. There are plenty of men out there who can feel the pain on the opposite side of the mountain. Sex is so gggooooodddd but is it always worth it? Women can you feel me? I mean you got pregnant and it all happened so fast! The sex I mean! You get 1,2,3, etc. minutes and it’s done. And then you have 9 months of pain and the rest of your life as the role of a Mother. To all of my Mothers, Aunts, etc. you have my up most respect and also to the Fathers that are handling your business.

]]> Comment on Don’t be a tease…but don’t always be a sure thing either by Lajuania Brown http://sistasspeakout.wordpress.com/2008/01/03/dont-be-a-teasebut-dont-always-be-a-sure-thing-either/#comment-12 Lajuania Brown Mon, 07 Jan 2008 06:27:15 +0000 http://sistasspeakout.wordpress.com/2008/01/03/dont-be-a-teasebut-dont-always-be-a-sure-thing-either/#comment-12 Lord knows that I used to be like that, I used to mess around with a close friend of mine who I lost contact with. But any way we used to do each other like that knowing that we both wanted each other very badly!! It used to trip me out sometimes, but I have learned that it is not worth it if you have to sweat a man just for some d***. Because there are plenty of fish in the sea. And my favorite quote of all is "A d**** comes a dime per dozen!! Lord knows that I used to be like that, I used to mess around with a close friend of mine who I lost contact with. But any way we used to do each other like that knowing that we both wanted each other very badly!!
It used to trip me out sometimes, but I have learned that it is not worth it if you have to sweat a man just for some d***. Because there are plenty of fish in the sea. And my favorite quote of all is “A d**** comes a dime per dozen!!

]]> Comment on Malachi 3:3 says: “He will sit as a refiner and purifier of silver.” by Lajuania Brown http://sistasspeakout.wordpress.com/2008/01/07/malachi-33-says-he-will-sit-as-a-refiner-and-purifier-of-silver/#comment-11 Lajuania Brown Mon, 07 Jan 2008 06:18:43 +0000 http://sistasspeakout.wordpress.com/2008/01/07/malachi-33-says-he-will-sit-as-a-refiner-and-purifier-of-silver/#comment-11 I tried to tell you that this morning girl when I talked to you!! I said everything is gonna be all right you just gotta trust and believe in him!! I tell you that every day when I talk to you!! I may have not sent you any thing but I tell you the same thing that you hear from your other friends before they do!! Love ya and god bless!!! I tried to tell you that this morning girl when I talked to you!! I said everything is gonna be all right you just gotta trust and believe in him!! I tell you that every day when I talk to you!! I may have not sent you any thing but I tell you the same thing that you hear from your other friends before they do!! Love ya and god bless!!!

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